Before we had a child most of our belongings were mine from my single days. I used to tease Rob that if we split up mostly everything was mine. He would always give me the "your adorable, but freakin' crazy" look. Since we have been together since the millennium, Rob has perfected this look. He is probably giving me that look now and not even looking at me.
Now when I think about divorce, I am reminded of what we have together, emotionally and materially. Would I be better off? Most definitely NOT! Rob and I share a bond I have never experienced with anyone else. Besides, many people would probably think it was my fault because Rob is just too nice a guy. If only I had a dime for every time someone asked me if he had a brother. NO ladies, he is an only child, get over it.
Yes, we are struggling financially but trying to get back on track. Rob, now, has a job he loves (most of the time), we have adjusted our lifestyle and made cutbacks where we were able. Do not get me wrong, financial stress takes a serious toll on a relationship. I read somewhere it is the #1 reason couples actually get a divorce.
Do I really think this will happen to us? No, I do not. The reason I believe we will make it work is because we enjoy being together more than we enjoy being alone or with anyone else. Each of us says the only problem we have is a lack of funds. This difficultly can be fixed in time and then our life will be perfect. ;)
Well, probably not perfect because I will still strive to annoy my husband with my antics, am a terrible house keeper and enjoy jumping out from behind things just to scare him. (Luckily, he has a strong heart) Insert the "your adorable, but freakin' crazy" look, here. He also likes to make fun of my bad spelling and any other foibles I may have and will probably always be a workaholic. However, our humor gets us through each day and really, I would not want to do any of this without him.
Besides, I have stopped referring to him as my first husband. So, I will keep him as long as he will put up with me. Hopefully, it will be until death do us part whether it be from homicide or natural causes.
3 comments:
you and Rob are one of the most solid couples I know and I am so glad you two have each other AND that Dustin has you both...
P.S. you can't afford a divorce anyway, trust me LOL ;)
I would also like to point out that there was a looong period of time in our early relationship that I refer to as "The Princess Bride Years". When each day brought with it the possibility that she'd ditch me. "Good work, sleep well, I'll most likely kill you in the morning..." Love, twue love...
This thought crosses every couples' mind! You are not alone in your thoughts.
You can always just laugh and say, "I'm choosing to skip my first divorce!"
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